about comments and privacy and technical details

There are several cohorts of people reading this bog.

There are those who were extremely close to B, and who are still mourning his passing daily. They are seeking comfort from memories and connection to how his life is being remembered. Thank you for sharing our grief journey.

There are those who care about us and life and are interested in hearing how things are going with our family. Thank you for caring about us. We are touched and care deeply about you as well.

There are those who have been through or are going through grief themselves and find peace in hearing another person’s grief journey. May peace be with you.

All of the people following this site are friends and family. There are no new subscribers from the public and no one that I don’t know. This site is not posted on any social media.

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Some of you feel comfortable making comments on the posts themselves and others write to me separately via email. Whatever works for you is great and I enjoy hearing connecting with others in whatever way you wish.

A handful of people have written that they do not feel comfortable with writing in ‘social media,’ and so are hesitant on the site. I don’t think I have stated this anywhere before, but wanted to let you know that although this site is public, it is delisted from any search engine listings. It also intentionally does not have my name, the kids’ names, or even B’s name on it, so it is not searchable even if it were listed. I did this instead of password protecting the site, because it seemed that a password could be too much of a barrier. This is all to say, that the chances of any human not invited to this site to randomly happening upon it is extremely unlikely. In this way it is not private, but still private.

Some of the notes that have been sent to me directly are kind, thoughtful, and really amazing. I often think: wow - I bet others would love to hear that. So, if you feel so inclined, take a stab at commenting; what you’re thinking could strike a chord with others. If what someone says strikes a chord with you, feel free to click the little heart icon and let them know that you hear them.

I do miss the easy private interface of CaringBridge, and the easy ‘like’ and comments there. If anyone knows of a better private blogging solution, let me know and I can consider switching platforms.

A few people are having technical trouble logging in to write comments. If you are technically savvy and would be willing to help one of these people, please comment here or let me know and I will try to connect you with each other.

That’s it for this administrative announcement. Peace and sunshine,

NW